About a month ago, I received a text from a very close friend that her sister had passed away, she was in her early forties. The previous year, her sister had been told that if she did not stop drinking, she would die. As far as I know, she stopped, but it was too late. I was in compete shock when I got the news, I believed she would recover and heal. Two days later, I received a message from another close friend that her brother, someone I had been close to many years before, had died from alcohol withdrawal.
What I felt besides complete and utter sadness was anger. Anger at myself. I kept thinking, what the hell do I know. I felt completely arrogant for thinking I could offer advice and blog about such a serious subject.
And then time passed.
I’m no expert. But I was once a drinker and now I’m not. I can only offer my own experience and hope that it resonates and is helpful in someway to someone. What I finally realized is that we all have to come to sobriety in our own way, and that can look like any number of things. There are many paths on this journey.
It is not easy to be sober in a culture obsessed with alcohol. Whatever path you take to get to your sober life, it is the right path.
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When I read this two weeks ago I was so sad to read about this terrible loss. Sincere and very belated condolences. But I was also sad to read about your anger at yourself. Your blog was incredibly helpful to me, partly because it resonated so closely to my own story in some ways, and partly because of the way you told it, and your beautiful confidence and positivity. Please don’t ever underestimate the power of your individual story to change others’ lives for the better. Maybe this is long over and I don’t need to tell you that but I just want you to know how grateful I am to you. You’re an inspiring and beautiful person.
I’m just seeing this now and I thank you💕
I’ve been so reluctant to write again and have considered just ending the blog. It’s funny, but it’s you I always think of, the first one to read my blog and my first real sober connection. Your blog had started popping up in my email again and I was so happy to see it. You are a beautiful writer and person. And once again you have inspired me to pick up where I left off💕